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It is my mission to be an ally to families facing divorce and post divorce challenges, to minimize unnecessary fear and unreasonable expenses. I attain this by offering a virtually unknown approach that is a compelling alternative to the lower success rates and atmospheric fees from lawyers and those seeking to profit from families in distress.
This calling is not for all and from the beginning I was told by other Judges, Lawyers and Other Mediators that I would not be able to make a living with Mediation. It was not very encouraging and in fact was very discouraging and daunting to say the least. When you are called to the top of the mountain you don’t count the steps, you don’t doubt yourself because it’s not a choice that you will climb that mountain and turn it into a hill and you’d rather die along the way in pursuit of something real anyway. I’ve made and managed millions and millions of dollars for corporations, led many industry firsts in the I.T. and telecom worlds and worked with the C-level officers of the fortune 100. It was exciting at first but lacked an intrinsically valuable purpose. So What? I looked back at times that I felt satisfaction from my work and it was revealed to me that it was times when I worked with my hands (I was a professional shoe repairman by the time I was 15) and it was when I was helping others (teaching, and helping elevate their life trajectory. Being a parent to beautiful and talented young ladies was also very influential. I worked on a process I developed to help identify the best career for someone and when I was done I was legitimately surprised that the list was filled with professions like teacher, therapist, coach, lawyer…and mediator. It was over from the moment I saw the word. So what for those who are interested I’ll expand on why me being a Divorce Mediator is a good marriage (couldn’t help it).
It is an observation that life equals hopefully a balanced landscape of suffering and indulgence. I mean if life was all indulgence you would end of suffering completely and if you didn’t have any indulgence you would only be left with suffering. So it’s a consciously managed balance between the two and not taking either your suffering or your bounty too seriously. This makes one person complex, a family exponentially more so and societies of people unimaginably complex so what moves each person is very personal and unique (enough anyway). So when you feel “The Call” you have hit the equivalent of the World Wide Powerball winning numbers! When you answer that call it streamlines your mind, values, purpose, and role in that complex society. You blend the demands of the profession with what you are naturally good at, what you like doing, and what aligns with your higher values. When you do that you become uniquely valuable.
Bringing back in the discouraging treatment I received from the industry when I started, it was a loving act to prepare me for a realistic view of the profession I chose. Every profession or calling has plenty of incumbent suffering you can’t avoid so it is the value of being eligible to answer the call that gives you the natural defenses against that built in suffering. When the pay is lacking, when the paperwork is tedious, when the outlook is unpleasant, and working with people in some of the worst pain of their life…you are at least doing what you are meant to do. You don’t count the steps anymore, you don’t turn everything into how much you make an hour, and you don’t get discouraged because this is the path. These factors are what drive everyone else away. You just get good at dealing with them because they are part of that path up the mountain. You can’t abandon the light in your life because it also creates shadows. So your passion for the thing you are doing is critical to your success and long term sustainability.
Much of the experience and perspectives developed over my personal and professional life have made me who I am obviously and shaped my approach. So what are the results of all of this? At the bottom of this page are a few accumulation measurements to summarize.