Five Things Children of Divorce Wish Their Parents Took More Seriously

I still love both of you: Children of divorcing parents may feel pressured to take sides or choose between their parents. They may want their parents to know that they can still love and care about both of them, even after the divorce.
I didn’t cause the divorce: Children may blame themselves for their parents’ divorce, which can lead to feelings of guilt and low self-esteem. They may want their parents to know that they are not responsible for the divorce.
I need both of you in my life: Children may worry about losing one of their parents after the divorce. They may want their parents to know that they need both of them in their lives, and that they value their relationship with each parent.
I need consistency and stability: Children may feel overwhelmed by the changes that come with a divorce. They may want their parents to provide consistency and stability in their lives by maintaining a routine and a sense of normalcy.
I need your support and understanding: Children of divorcing parents may experience a range of emotions, such as sadness, anger, and confusion. They may want their parents to provide emotional support, understanding, and validation during this difficult time.

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Pro Se Divorce Podcast Introduction and Announcement of Ten Tips Series

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Pro Se Divorce Podcast Introduction and Announcement of Ten Tips Series

Aug 14, 2024 • 12:59

Whether you're in the midst of a divorce or looking to be prepared for any future challenges, this podcast equips you with the tools to achieve the best possible outcomes in your mediation journey.
Pro Se Tips 1 of 10-Refining Goals Outside-In

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In this episode of the Pro Se Divorce Podcast, Tom Davis dives into the crucial difference between internal and external goals in mediation. Understanding these distinctions is key to achieving success. Tom explains how external goals, often tied to tangible assets like the marital home or spousal maintenance, can create…
Pro Se Tips 2 of 10-Pre-Mediation Disclosures and Why You Need Them

Sep 2, 2024 • 15:53

In this podcast episode, the importance of Pre-Mediation Disclosures in mediation is discussed, focusing on how these disclosures can contribute to a successful mediation process. There are two main types: Financial Disclosures and Mediation Topics Disclosures, which can sometimes be termed Confidential Pre-Mediation Disclosures.
Tip 3 of 10-Demystifying Mediator Instructions and Behaviors

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This episode is essential for anyone who wants to maximize the value of their mediation by understanding and working effectively with their mediator.
Ep 5:Pro Se Tips 4 of 10-How to Not Kill Your Mediation with Negative Reactions

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In this episode of the Pro Se Divorce Podcast, Tom Davis dives into the critical importance of pre-mediation planning to avoid emotional and negotiation triggers that can derail the mediation process.
Pro Se Tips 5 of 10-Turning Interruptions into Opportunities

Sep 23, 2024 • 11:58

By the end of the episode, you’ll have practical tools to turn one of the most common irritations in mediation—interruptions—into opportunities for clearer communication and more productive negotiations.
Pro Se Tips 6 of 10: The Hidden Power in Asking Questions

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In this episode, we explore the critical role that asking the right questions plays in mediation.
Pro Se Divorce Tips 7 of 10: Navigating Spousal Maintenance Negotiations: The Power of BATNA and WATNA

Oct 8, 2024 • 53:04

In today’s episode, I’ll walk through how BATNA, WATNA, and the Zone of Possible Agreement (ZOPA) play critical roles in spousal maintenance negotiations and how these tools helped me close a seemingly impossible gap.
Pro Se Tips 8 of 10: How to Get the Most Value from Private Caucus

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In this episode of the Pro Se Divorce Podcast we explore the value of using Private Caucuses in divorce mediation. Private Caucuses offer a confidential space where each party can speak freely with the mediator, allowing for more open communication, problem-solving, and emotional venting. We also share a real-life story…
Pro Se Tips 9 of 10-Concerns for Parenting Plans Part 1

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In this episode, Tom Davis emphasizes the importance of prioritizing children's emotional well-being and reducing conflict during divorce mediation, rather than focusing on material concerns like overnights and holidays.